I've come to believe that it's a great act of courage to be with someone who is grieving. It's so easy to feel at a loss in the face of...

For almost 20 years, my friend Jenny Douglas and I have met up to do a practice called Love Letter from Your Inner Wise Self. No matter...

Photo by Nik Nikolia - Unsplash This is a practice for lovers to move into a more tantric, transcendent, transformational -- or just...

People often say to me, “you’re good at receiving”. At first I translated this as “you’re a greedy selfish wench.” But as I felt into it...

Grief is a wild animal. Here's my first slightly chaotic attempt to track my own grief journey. I was very touched by Rachelle...

Sometimes you can go back and do the thing you most yearn to do.

One thing I love about Tantra is... nothing in you needs to be repressed or denied or left behind… All of you is welcome.

One thing I love about inner marriage is when your inner masculine and inner feminine begin to get more oomphy and in relationship, you...

There is the Yang Masculine - the ability to penetrate the world with our ideas and energy. There's the Yin Feminine - our ability to...

A friend and colleague in the tantra world has gifted me a personal assistant to help get my ideas out in the world. How lovely is that?...

Here’s an experiment to try. No matter what is happening, whether pleasurable or deeply unpleasurable, pause, breathe, relax and say to...

For months people would ask if I was ok and I would reply, “I’m ok not being ok.” But recently something else is happening. There’s a...

After this year, I feel transformed by generosity. As some of you know, my husband, Erik, died almost a year ago. And the ride since then...

Grief is a great teacher of radical yin. When our life is shattered or we experience an earth-shaking loss or profound disappointment,...

I went to Manhattan to see a very beloved Medium. I dressed up. I felt like I was going on a date with my husband, Erik. I knew from one...

For about two years before Erik died, I’d occasionally hear a voice that said, “When Erik dies, go to ISTA.” This was strange — not so...

Erik and I had been preparing for the day when he would no longer be so embodied. With a 21 year age difference, we knew that someday he...

Mirabai Starr reimagines Elizabeth Kubler-Ross’s fives stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance) as stations...

The movement to know another is an endless task and an endless work of love. I am thinking of Emmanuel Levinas today, and of Erik, and...

I keep thinking of one of the vows Erik and I made when we married that went something like: Let’s love each other in the Cosmic Erotic...