Amelia Perkins
Teacher • Counselor • Workshop Facilitator
Amelia Perkins brings more than a decade of devotion to the art and practice of relationship. Her work lives at the crossroads of Tantra, somatic practice, spiritual inquiry, and the wild, ordinary intelligence of love.
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She holds a Master of Theological Studies from Harvard Divinity School and a Master’s in Transformational Leadership & Coaching, bringing emotional fluency, embodied presence, and clear relational guidance to her teaching. Amelia is also on faculty at Shalom Mountain Retreat Center in the Catskills, a community known for its deep transformational work.
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Amelia is known for teaching the Inner Marriage—a framework exploring the dynamic between the inner feminine (intuition, feeling, creativity, aliveness) and the inner masculine (presence, steadiness, protection, direction). This work has supported hundreds of people in transforming their relationships, communication, intimacy, and creative life.
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Much of her work with couples begins here—not with fixing the relationship, but with tending the inner ground from which relationship grows.
Amelia’s work with couples is deeply shaped by her years with her late husband, Erik. Together they lived what she calls “a grand experiment in relationship”—exploring Tantra, sacred intimacy, honest communication, and the mystery of what becomes possible when two people show up fully, even when it’s hard.
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They led couples workshops together and were deeply interested in what makes relationship not just functional, but alive. The beauty and loss of that relationship continue to inform Amelia’s teaching—its tenderness, its erotic curiosity, its devotion, and the raw truth of how love transforms us.
Experimentation &
the Healing Power of Pleasure
A core thread running through my work is experimentation.
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Rather than prescribing a “right” way to be in relationship, I invite couples into small, intentional experiments—ways of listening, touching, speaking, and being together that can be tried on, felt, and adjusted. This approach keeps relationship alive, curious, and responsive rather than rigid or performative.
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I also believe deeply in the healing power of pleasure. Pleasure, in this context, isn’t about performance or escape—it’s about nourishment. It’s the body’s way of signaling safety, presence, and connection. When pleasure is welcomed back into a relationship, it often softens defensiveness, restores tenderness, and creates the conditions for honesty and repair.
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Together, experimentation and pleasure offer couples a way forward that is creative rather than corrective—less about fixing what’s wrong, and more about discovering what helps love flow again.
Resources: Writing & Video & Classes
If you’d like to feel into this work more directly, here are a few places to start:
Here are a few experiments to try:
Feel the Hole in Your Heart and Love from There
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Temple Time: a Practice for Lovers
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Below you'll find a Couples Playbook you can download with even more experiments!
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And you can check out my classes by clicking here.
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What some of my clients have to say...
"I feel that every part of me is welcome in the couples workshop.
The experiments feel like warm invitations,
and something about the way Amelia's sense of play crosses her seriousness of purpose
made my experience feel bountiful, meaningful, and ripe! I can’t wait to come back."
- Kent, Brooklyn
"The ideas and exercises from the couple's tantric class were so fun and easy to incorporate
into our relationship. It brought us together as a couple in such a great and naturally playful way!
We felt a real kinship with the other participants that was remarkable and an unexpected plus.
Having the different perspectives of both Erik and Amelia was fantastic and seeing the
open, honest, real, playful way they relate as a couple was inspirational!
We leave the workshop with tricks, ideas, and reminders of how to jump back into
what both of us truly want in our relationship: love, connection, growth, and joy.
It has sparked intimacy and just plain fun that perhaps for some reason
many of us adults forget we can have. That workshop was magical!"
- Ashley & Duncan, Boston